At a YouTube page,
the question was asked:
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My thoughts on this:
I've been de-converted for almost 10 years now.
Overcoming the Abrahamic Mind Virus gave me immunities to it.
It also made it possible to become a better person. But it didn't assure that I would.
I was suddenly free to become better or worse.
But "Free Will" is an illusion.
So it would all depend on physics.
I did become a better person in some important ways.
But I also became less and less ... relatable to most humans.
When any humans (individuals or collectives) can't relate to someone, then:
No matter how pro-social that someone is, ... it's not going to get them anywhere socially.
So any time they spend being prosocial ... is effectively useless and ultimately wasted.
What I gradually discovered was that atheists, secular-ists, humanists, etc...
are every bit as us-vs-them and polarized in my society (USA) as any Christians.
So even though I agree with most of the ideals (of most of those people), ...
I found 99.9% of humans to be antisocial to anyone/everyone who isn't on-script as part of their "us".
As Dr Robert Sapolsky explains, people are wired that way. And it takes a very conscious effort to overcome that genetic and cultural wiring.
There is always an us-vs-them.
Most of it's happening via reflexes/triggers we aren't even consciously aware of,
and we are just naturally cruel to every "them".
Most people aren't even aware they're doing it. So they're not even in the process of doing that rewiring in their own head.
I am a "them", in every setting, with every demographic; because of how unique I am (good, bad, and neutral uniques).
I haven't learned to hide that well enough.
I can (sometimes) fit in (sometimes even shine) with a single event of shared space interactions.
But that success is always short-lived.
I may be tragically flawed.
I may be impossible to love, like, respect, or even tolerate; except when someone needs something from me.
But the common lack of ability to fake some compassion
is not unique to the religious.
If you're looking for some enlightened souls,
you won't have a better chance of finding that in secular circles.
Good people are hard to find;
no matter where you look.
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When I hear an atheist, or secularist, etc brag of being more prosocial than most Christians, I think "ok yea. That has a good chance of being true".
But holy crap that's a low bar that they're stepping over.
Religious cults/cultures give people reasons to think, say and do crappy things.
It also gives them extra-shitty reasons for any actually-good things they do.
That creates a Bell-Curve dynamic in a society; where non-religious people who aren't particularly kindhearted, or gentle, or enlightened, ... look like they shine(!);
because of the contrasting comparison.
"At least we aren't bullying gay kids into suicide"
is a really really far cry from anyone's potential.
Meanwhile, in liberal circles, I am "white guilty", and part of a male-privileged patriarchy, and a statistical THREAT to society as a middle-aged single man (who doesn't even date).
Better hide the kids.
In conservative circles, I'm the enemy the moment I voice almost any of my politically-relevant views and values. Or if they discover that I don't fit their cultural-values mold that determines if each person's very existence has any value.
It's easy to figure out what problem Christians and their fanbase have with me.
I haven't yet figured out what problem most atheists end up having with me.
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You never really know someone
until you've really seen their ethical strengths tested.
There's no opportunity to see most people truly tested.
Everyone I've ever seen tested ... failed; utterly.
I treat everyone like the good-person they presume to be. Because it doesn't cost me anything to assume it charitably.
But there is no evident character-edge for non-theists, secular-ists, leftists, or humanists, etc..
There's mostly just a lot of flag waving.
"Go Team!"
https://youtu.be/14XSzWT4vI0
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