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My Pompeii

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  Romantically speaking, I recovered. I'm not currently "in love with" anyone. Nor do I have the faintest clue who I'll end up with someday. This isn't about that. It's about what happened. For me, this is the song of what a predator [ This guy ]  (clinical Narcissist and sociopath) did to my family, starting 16 years ago. It reminds me of what George Carlin once said: "All the problems in the world...ALL of them...can be traced back to what fathers do to their sons." This song reminds me of how I accidentally helped make it possible for him to infiltrate, capture, and devastate people I held dear. I lived outside of the city gates. Left to my own devices, most of the time. But I was the city guard. The Sentinel. The Father. The kin and the kindred. When the unseen threat approached, I was caught unprepared. All of us were. He had been waiting. Watching. Scheming. He moved in the shadows for a very long time, exploiting critical vulnerabilities. T...

There Has Only Ever Been One Monster

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  There has only ever been one bad man in our world. A million different names and faces, but it's always the same man. Copied and pasted. An ancient echo of evil. It wears the skins of the fallen; dead children. Souls never mourned because their bodies lived on. It's how monsters procreate. They murder and hollow out the vulnerable, and then seed the essence of that 1 man ... into those hollowed out spaces. -The perfect crime. To this very day, not a single county has a law preventing it. He doesn't always succeed. Sometimes the living and beautiful essence of a child survives. But that inner light will flicker for years. Every such child remains vulnerable to any other face of "him" showing up to finish what an older version of him started. So they'll need to find a guardian to help nurture and protect that light from going out. The "him" still prowls; never tiring of the hunt. He must always try to hollow out every child, because even the darkes...

How I Experience Data, Connection, and Relationships

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Before I get back to work, I want to share this with anyone who might accidentally end up seeing this. THIS is the way I think about (and actively engage with) both personal connection-building and online resourcing. Online,  I don't doomscroll. I don't binge. Instead, I thoughtfully network with all people and within all systems.    In person,  I read body language while sending and receiving active streams of spoken and unspoken energies, all of which are useful forms of data. These energies are all potential opportunities for clarity and/or connection.  Not all clarity is happy-making. Much of it will always be painful. But even then, I find myself empowered.  In the calm of solitude, I process and clarify.  I then prepare to continue, each following day. I *make the time* to intentionally connect with other humans via our energy-based root system. These include all of our communication and connection systems. For me, it's the same as how any My...

When A Fellow Sincere Gentleman Is Confused By The Unaccountable Sexist Nonsense Of Unhealed And Undateable Women

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Today, our adventurous exploration of 3rd- and 4th-Wave Feminists begins on an unhealed woman's FB Group/Page.   Sherri Bothwell   o p e s o t n d S r t 1 m 6 l a i 1 9 6 t c l 8 l c h h 7 t 8 2 i 3 2 2 9 h 9 t c 8 3 a m 5 8 u t h 0 5 8 9 u 5 i 7 u 0   · Saying “not all men” is like saying “it’s definitely me”. Jonathan Miller I dont get it... some people just find generalization frustrating and dangerous. I understand this is about dangerous men, and that never needs to be silenced. But isn't this potentially harmful to the issue? Your profile states youre "exposing harmful beliefs systems." Is this not just another harmful belief system that can potentially detract from the issue? If someone says all women are dramatic or irrational, would it be ok? Would no women stand up and say no, not true. Or if someone claimed all *insert group* are violent, would it be wrong if participants of that group speak up, and hopefully OUT, against those causing the harm. While also ...