Jesus Was In An Abusive Relationship With An Abusive God.

Today, in a Narcissist Abuse survivor group, 
someone posted this unthoughtful cope:

Replies included:

Abe:
I don't and this is gross. That was the first narcissistic relationship I got out of.

Michael: 
I agree. All this to do with God is a complete con.

Joy:
How sad .. there is a God and Jesus you may not know
 
James Apperson 
Pull up a list of the diagnostic criteria for someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder.
Now go over the list.
Find me even ONE trait on that list
which does not accurately describe the Christian "God". 


 Joy:
 Love 

James Apperson 
Love is just a word
until we define it.

How does a Narcissist define "love"?

Please consider that every single example I'm about to cite 
entirely meets the biblical descriptions of "God". 

In the context of a relationship with someone exhibiting narcissistic traits, "narcissistic love" can refer to simply feeling good about the selfish benefits they gain from your service, sacrifice, and admiration.

In this context, saying they love you is the same as saying they love the benefits they get from you.

It can also refer to a manipulative and exploitative form of affection used to control and validate the narcissist's ego.

Here's a more detailed explanation:

Love as a Tool:
Narcissists often view love as a means to an end, using it to gain attention, admiration, and control.

Conditional Affection:
Their expressions of love are often conditional, dependent on our ability to meet their needs and validate their inflated sense of self.

Lack of Empathy:
Narcissists struggle with empathy and may not genuinely care about our feelings or well-being;
viewing people as objects to be used and controlled.

[A video released today that shows CHRISTIANS admitting this.]
 
Love Bombing:
They may initially shower their partner with attention and affection (love bombing) to gain control and manipulate them.
Devaluation:

Once we fail to meet their needs or their ego is threatened, the narcissist may shift to devaluation;
belittling and dismissing us.
[Examples:
Being told we are "nothing without God".
And being told that we deserve Hell for being so filthy.
Plus, all the times in Bible stories where the punishment for failing to sufficiently please "God" was to be subject to extreme violence.]

Gaslighting:
They may use gaslighting, a form of manipulation where they deny or distort reality to make their partner question their sanity and self-worth.

Fantasy-Based Relationships:
Narcissists may fall in love with their fantasy of a partner (in the case of bible-God, any living reflection he can see himself in],
rather than the real person.
 This leads to disappointment and discard when the human doesn't fit their ideal.
[examples "because you are lukewarm, I will vomit you out of my mouth"]

Worse yet, *eternal discard* from the Narcissist who says "You are dead to me now". 
 In Christianity, this is called "Hell". 

 This is also usually accompanied by the Narcissist trying to DEFAME the discarded person. 
 Examples: 
All the things Bibles and Christians say about ex-members. 
 
Toxic Dynamics:
Narcissistic relationships are often characterized by emotional abuse, manipulation, and a lack of healthy communication.

Seeking Validation:
Narcissists seek validation, viewing us as a source of external admiration and approval.
"All things for the glory of God".